Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Being a Blessing on a Small Budget.

Let's be intentional about blessing others. Who's with me? 

Being a blessing on a small budget is possible. It doesn't have to cost a lot of money to be a blessing! 

 As I mentioned in my previous blog post Do We Need an Upgrade in our Behavior, I must be intentional about blessing others or it won't happen. With a tight budget it can be hard for me to just take out $100 bill and be a blessing. I just don't have that kind of extra cash right now.  I was praying about this, chit chatting with God over a cup of hot coffee. Yes, I do that. He reminded me there are other ways to bless someone with out handing over cash. So the wheels in my head started to turn as I jotted down some ways my family and I can be a blessing to those around us without breaking the bank.


Monday, March 23, 2015

Do We Need an Upgrade in Our Behavior?

Selfishness. We always watch out for #1. Me Me Me. 

I've learned if I want to walk in love and not in selfishness, I have to plan it. I have to be intentional about blessing others. Maybe it comes easy to you but If I don't plan it and make it happen, then it probably wouldn't happen. 



Our human flesh wants us to keep our stuff, our money, and our time. We work hard for what we have. I've been that "Christian" when prompted by God to give to someone; I would ask God for double confirmation, for an angel to appear, or something! Especially if it is someone who has hurt me. LOL Yes! I realize how shameful this is now that I've been thinking about it. 

BUT....If we want an upgrade in our lives, in our joy, in our blessings from God we must come down off the "All about me" pillar and get on the "All about God and others" pillar. It's not about me...or you...but it's about God. 

The best way for God to bless me is for me to bless others. The best way for God to change my selfishness is for me to submit my heart to God and allow Him to bless others through me. Yes, even the people that hurt me. 

Love will melt that hard heart. God is love. When I allow God's love to pour over my hard heart I'm allowing God to soften me. 

How do I overcome evil? With Good. 


Romans 12:21 KJV "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."


So, when you are going through a rough time; bless someone. With out question, without needing triple confirmations from God and without holding back because of selfish desires. The bible tells us good conquers evil. If I want an upgrade in my joy and blessings then I need to first upgrade my behavior. I want to be made perfect in love; God's love. 1 John 4:17-18 

More than Blessed, 

Starla J. 

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

What if Someone Disrespected Your Child?

You see kids not playing with your kids. Not being fair in taking turns. You see them being critical of your child. Making fun of them and what they are wearing or eating. Leaving your child out. You see others staring at your your child like something is wrong with them. You hear the whispers that are then followed by laughter. All towards your little one. You hear the disrespect that gushes from their mouth and sent hurling at your kid. You hear the name calling. You see the bullying that is happening. You see the efforts to make them look better by making your child seem less than. You hear. You see. You know. 



Thursday, March 12, 2015

10 Ways to Raise a Grateful Child.


I have a little one that is always asking for things every time we go to the store. It could be for a toy or food or some snack that caught his eye as we walk the isles of the store. He also showed a little dislike...ok ok...pitched a huge fit over the thought of not getting a present for his birthday from his father and I. Now before I get hate mail, we throw the party and all the family and friends buy him plenty of gifts. We consider our gift to him is the party. He is only six years old and it's a great time to teach him to be grateful for what he has and what he is given.

I also feel a little guilty as the parent that I let it get this far before making an intentional decision to make sure everyone in our family shows gratitude on a regular basis. So I sat down and made a list on how I could guide my little boy into being more grateful. I also did a little research and attached a bible verse to each point I needed to think about and hopefully recite to my family as we learn to be more grateful. 


Monday, March 9, 2015

Forgiving with out an Apology.

In life, relationships, friendships and marriage (really in life all together) there can be so much pain when we allow the bitterness of unforgiveness to creep in our hearts. Some may be lighter offenses and at other times it can be an offense so great that the pain runs deep. A pain that only God can heal.  



Derivative of original photo by Seyed Mustafa  Zamani used with CC


Thursday, March 5, 2015

Feelings are Not Facts.

Our feelings. 

Are they valid? 

Are they something to rule our lives? 

Are they something that should guide our decisions?


Our feelings can change at the drop of a hat, tune of a song or embrace of a friend. So can we even trust our own feelings if they are so quickly changing?


Original Photo by Marcos Gasc. Used by CC
What does the bible say about our feelings?

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Be an Expert in the Good of Your Husband.

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Our words. Our thoughts. Our feelings. Our emotions. They can all be directed toward negative or positive. We each go through our own seasons of being in a valley or hard spot. Including our husbands. Let's be such an expert in knowing and speaking good about our husbands that the world around us would think he is super man! 

Do you know what your husband is good at? What are his talents? What are his Gifts? What does he do well at? What does he work hard at? What does he succeed in? 

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