A Christian View of Dealing with Grief

Dealing with the absence of not just a loved one, but someone who's presence touched every part of your life can bring you to your knees before God like never before. 

Often times, through the tear stained face and confused heart, we question God in His sovereignty. 

Grief is a sad part of the human experience. It is a part of life. 

But we have this hope of Christ - He is strong enough to carry our burdens, pain, unmet expectation, sorrow and grief. In exchange, He will refresh us, strengthen us and guide us. 

Dealing with the loss of a loved one.

My Gift To You: Free Printable Calendar

Free weekly printable just for you!

My word for this year is Focus. Did you choose a word for your year? It's never to late to pick one.

I'm hooked on planning. I love the Happy Planner and the Travelers Notebook. I own both. As Mother's Day is in just a couple of days, I wanted a gift for all my followers. pssst...that's you.  So I called up my good friend, Deana from The Frugal Homeschooling Mom and asked her to create for me an amazing weekly calendar for you. 

There are two parts to this printable. One is a weekly calendar on one sheet and the second is a weekly calendar on two sheets. Use one or the other or both! 

Free Printable Calendar

Click on the image for your FREE printable calendar. 

Free weekly printable calendar

How do you plan your days? Do you use a planner? 

Scheduling our days is important to our success. Let's encourage each other to set godly priorities in our lives. God first, our spouse, kids and then everything else. 

If you print these off and use them, please tag me in the image on how you used them. I'm on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook

Thank you for being here with me and enjoy your free printable. xx


Starla J

Saying "No" to Ministry Opportunities.

You can say "No" to ministry opportunities. 

I believe it goes against the grain ,sometimes, as Christian leaders. Or perhaps it's just my struggle in the whole saying no thing. 

I want to serve God, but my focus should be on quality and not quantity. 

Serving God, God's servant, full plate

A Legacy of Faith

A couple of years ago, I came across a verse that left an imprint on my heart. It speaks volumes in one sentence. This verse reminds me of my heritage and how important it is.

In 2 Timothy, Paul is writing from prison to encourage young Timothy. He mentored Timothy from a boy into a man and wants to teach him every last thing he can, even from prison. Maybe especially from prison. 

2 Timothy 1:5 says, “I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also.” 

Two verses later, Paul tells Timothy that God does not give us a spirit of fear and timidity, but rather power, love, and self-control. He wants Timothy to be all he can be and never let circumstances or fear dictate his actions.

Isn’t this what all of us parents want for our children?

Verse 5 means so much to me because of where I come from. I am blessed with godly parents and grandparents. Their faith lives through me! I am their legacy. 

Shaking Our Fist At God

Sometimes, we shake our fists up at the heavens and blame God for the bad things happening in our lives. We blame Him for not caring or taking care of us or maybe giving us more than we think we can handle. 

The world can be a dark, cruel place. 

The Bible tells us the enemy prowls the surface of the earth looking for someone to devour.  1 Peter 5:8 

The battle is real. We are warned to be alert and diligent in our relationship with God. 

Is it God that tempts us? No! James 1:13 

It's the enemy and it's our own selves. 

Our own bad decisions. 

That's what I want to touch on right now. Sometimes, not always, but sometimes, the reason we are in a bad spot in life is because of our own bad decisions. 

Yes, it's true. We trip our own selves up sometimes. 

For example: 
Relationships with the wrong kind of people
Sex before marriage or outside of marriage
Not being a good steward of our finances
Lying and not controlling our tongue
Not putting up boundaries and guarding ourselves from sin
Allowing our minds to run wild with negative thoughts

The list can go on and on. 

I want to remind you - and myself - of a few facts. 

Blaming God for the hard times in life.

Shaking Our Fist at God

#1. God does not tempt us or cause us to fall. That is the enemy and our own sin. 

James 1:13-15

"Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am being tempted by God"; for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone.  But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death..."

#2. We have the ability to make our own lives a hot mess. Lust, greed, and selfishness are an icky part of us that we must consistently lay at Jesus' feet. When we diligently spend time at the feet of our Savior, then we can pick up the Fruits of the Spirit. It's a great exchange!

Galatians 5:22-23 "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law."

#3 God is never absent. Whatever the means of how we arrived in this painfully, deliberating spot in life, never allow your thoughts to settle on "God is absent". God is not absent. He promises to never leave us. When we cry out for answers; He gives us His Bible. Pray, spend time with God and read the Bible. God is not absent. He never leaves us.

Deuteronomy 31:6 "Be strong and courageous. do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."

Let's remember these valid points and Bible verses next time we are shaking our fist at God. Let's ask ourselves where this attack is coming from and did my poor decisions bring me here. 

If we need to seek forgiveness and reconcile our lives back to God; than let's do so quickly, but let us never blame God for our hot mess of a life. 

God is for you! Remind yourself of God's promises and what He has done for you in the past. Trials can make us stronger and wiser if we allow them. 

That doesn't mean it isn't hard. It can be very hard. Have yourself a good cry at the feet of Jesus. He intercedes for you! Romans 8:34

When bad times come it can be confusing and sometimes we are unable to comprehend what and why this is going on. The enemy is quick to throw thoughts of doubt our way. 

God wants us to trust Him and to grow in Him through the ups and downs of life. 

 Let us persevere! 

James 1:2-4  "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds,  because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.  Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."

I hope this encouraged you to persevere and cling tight to Jesus. 


Starla J. 

Mommy Needs Rest: Making God a Priority

Our whole purpose in life is to live for the glory of God! 

We are excited about this. We go out and do our best for God in our career, ministry, home, marriage and children. 

 We rush around getting things done that are pressing us immediately and the list can be long and seems never ending. 

We try to get in time with God on a daily basis to keep that peace, strength and relationship with God where it should be.   
However, at some point we get run down, worn out, exhausted, and in need of rest.

Resting in God. Living off yesterdays time with God.

God Likes To Do New Things

Spring is just around the corner. 

Spring represents new things. New beginnings. New starts. 

God likes to do new things too. He wants to do new things in us and for us. He loves us too much to leave us where we are at. He wants to make us new. He wants to restore us and heal us. 

Have you ever gone to an antique shop to find a dingy looking copper serving dish? It's old, stained and doesn't shine anymore. However, in the right hands and with the right cleaner, that serving dish can be made new. It will shine and be a beautiful part of the serving collection. 

We are like the old serving dish. We need to be cleaned, shined up and be made ready to serve again. 

God is still doing a new thing in us. Give God your pain and sorrow and He will give you peace and joy.