For the Newlywed or Not So Newlywed

Marriage is fragile. Handle with care.

If that was a bumper sticker, some people might mock it. There is so much truth to it that we don’t always want to see. “The old ball and chain.” “Life sentence.” 

We make jokes about marriage, but it is a gift. 

It was intended to be the closest relationship we can get to God here on earth. We are supposed to love, honor, cherish and protect each other. More often we take advantage of the fact that that person is stuck with us. We treat them like their feelings don’t matter and we rip into them on a bad day.

God's design for marriage. A biblical marriage.

5 Ways to Pursue Your Husband

This coming July marks the 16th wedding anniversary for my husband and I. Boy oh boy, have I learned so much and have come so far in my marriage. Thank God for His grace, mercy, and guidance. What a blessing I have been given. 

One lesson I've learned is the importance of pursuing each other.  I believe this one thing can make or break a marriage. 

I know for me, when my husband takes the time to fill up my love bucket, shows appreciation and makes an effort; I feel closer to him, cherished and loved. 

Husbands need to feel respected and loved. 

Pursue your man, ladies!

As christian wives, God calls us to pursue our spouse whether they return the pursuit or not. Of course, marriage as a whole functions so much better when both spouses submit to God and honor their spouse, but reality is - sometimes you have to fight for your marriage. 

5 Ways To Pursue Your Husband

To read my list click HERE

Much Love, 

Starla J 

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The Pretty Blogging Planner: Freebie

My blogging planner is great for all bloggers and can even be used by moms needing a monthly and weekly calendar. 

Have you ever had a great idea for a blog post, made a mental note to write it down only for it to disappear in your mind no where to be found? 

That's me. So many mental notes, more than I'd like to admit, have been lost on a mental notepad. hahahah

For me to ever remember my "to-do" list or that awesome blog topic - I MUST write it done. And to be successful at organizing these ideas and plans I needed more than sticky notes through out my house. I know I'm not alone in this dilemma.

I needed a planner. More specifically a blog planner.  And if was a pretty one that would be even better!

Intentional Spending

Our family is coming up on a very important anniversary. July 1st will mark two years since money started giving up its hold on us. It had us in its grasp in more ways than we realized at the time. That July day was a pretty ordinary day. Nothing spectacular happened, but everything shifted in my mind. 

We made a decision and haven’t looked back.

That day, we started something that I call intentional spending. See, for most of my life, I wanted to be more giving. I always said that when we had more money coming in, we would start giving more. The problem was there was always some other way to spend that money. Sound familiar? 

I also realized in my desire to give the girls what they wanted, I wasn’t doing them any favors in the long run. So, the plan to change all that started. I was a woman on a mission!

How to spend your money wisely, Get out of debt, Control your spending

How to Prepare Your Family for Spiritual Battle

How to prepare your family for spiritual battle. 

The war is over, but the battle continues. 

Imagine a war of two countries. Soldiers in hand to hand combat. The bullets are real, the death toll rises and the damage is overwhelming. Then, the smoke dissipates and peace arises! A winner has been chosen! A hand shake between the countries and a promise of peace is signed. The war is over. 

But, behind the darkness, the battle still wages on. The continued prowling for people to destroy doesn't affect who wins in the end. Remember the war is over. A winner has already been chosen. None the less, darkness continues to move in an effort to bring down anyone they can. 

Jesus has won the war, but the battle still wages on. 

Here is how to prepare for spiritual battle. 

The Word of God, tells us how to take our stand, as Christian soldiers, against the enemy. 

"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord's people."  Ephesians 6:10-18

Summer Bible Verse Plan

Summer Bible Verse Plan. Summer means no homework to kids (and us parents too.) Summer means fun and relaxation. It is the perfect time for kids to memorize Bible verses! 

A Christian View of Dealing with Grief

Dealing with the absence of not just a loved one, but someone who's presence touched every part of your life can bring you to your knees before God like never before. 

Often times, through the tear stained face and confused heart, we question God in His sovereignty. 

Grief is a sad part of the human experience. It is a part of life. 

But we have this hope of Christ - He is strong enough to carry our burdens, pain, unmet expectation, sorrow and grief. In exchange, He will refresh us, strengthen us and guide us. 

Dealing with the loss of a loved one.