One-On-One Time With Your Kids.

Do you schedule one on one time with each of your kids? 


Quality time with your kids, alone time with your kids



My daughter is staying the night at my mom's house tonight so it's just my son and I hanging out today.  I love having this rare moment of one on one alone time with him. He is only 5 years old and so much fun.

Because this doesn't happen very often, I have thoroughly enjoyed putting together this day with him. We watched his favorite cartoons with out interruptions from sister. We talked about everything he felt like talking about which included everything from his favorite dance moves to what he wanted to eat to who he wanted to invite to his birthday party (it's 6 months away). We ate lunch and dinner together. Just the two of us. Sitting side by side. Sharing food and talking about what was good and what wasn't so good. We played together. He taught me one of his own made up games, in which, from my understanding, the rules can change depending on his rulings. LOL We watched a movie that he got to pick out without having to make a compromise with sister. We made homemade popsicles together. We cuddled. We prayed together. I love to hear him pray. Such a simple, but oh so important prayer that comes out of my little son. 

As I have spent the day with my son, I'm reminded of what a blessing God has given me. Children are a blessing; every single one of them. I admit. I fail at getting this one on one time in. However, I am determined to try harder from here on out. I have really enjoyed getting to know my son a little better today. And nothing will ever take away this overwhelming love that I have for him.

Let's not take our kids for granted. Let's love on them, encourage them, listen to them, play with them, and pray with them. 

How can we create these quality moments with our kiddos?

1. Eat with your kids. Invite them to help you cook if they are old enough. The kitchen might be a little bit more of a mess when the little ones help us cook, but the time spent together is totally worth every minute of extra cleaning. 

2. Play with your kids. You may just learn some new games. Or teach them a few of the games you grew up playing. 

3. Listen to your kids. They have a wonderful understanding of what's going on around them. Make the time to stop what you are doing and listen to their story. 

4. Be available to your kids. Just be there. Be present. Readily available to them when they need you. 
5. Spend time with your kids. I've read that time = love for kids. Pour on the love my friend!! 
6. Be silly with your kids. Make silly faces, have a silly random dancing moment, sing really loudly to their favorite song, etc. Have fun!!
7. Be interested in what interests your kids. If you notice your kid likes something, be interested in it to. Join them in their interests and have fun exploring and learning something with your kids. 
8. Read together. Have them pick a book they want to read and read it together. Take turns or just read it to them. Don't stop reading together! 
9. Family devotions with your kids. It's our job, as parents, to point our kids to Jesus. Our kids need to see their parents join them in studying the bible, prayer and worship. Don't wait till Sunday's at church for the kids to see you or hear you talk about God.   
10. Pray for your kids. Very important. We have a spiritual, God given authority over our kids and praying for them and over them is vital!

Let's pray. 

Dear Lord, 
Thank you for loving me in-spite of my weakness. You are made greater in my weakness. Thank you for blessing me with my kids. Thank you for this day with my son. I have learned so much from him today. My heart is overwhelmed.  It's amazing. I am humbled at this gift you have given me. Thank you! Help me to be the mother that my kids need me to be. Help me to be the mother that You want me to be; that You created me to be. Give me a pure heart. Renew my mind. Change me. Guide me. Heal me. Restore all that is broken in me and create in me a new person, woman, wife and mother. I'm sorry for when I fail You, my husband and my kids. Hold my hand and help me to be all that you intended me to be. Help me to be purposeful in being apart of my kids lives. Help me to slow down and take the time to create quality one on one moments with each of my munchkins. I love my family, Lord. Thank you for them. I love you Lord. You are worthy to be praised. In Jesus' name I pray.
Amen. 

How do you create quality time and moments with your kids? 

Blessings, 

Starla J. 

4 comments:

  1. Beautiful post, Starla! It is so important that we carve out intentional time with our children ... we blink and years fly by. Stopping by from SITS Girls. :)

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  2. It is so important to follow your kids fascinations rather than expecting your kids to follow yours. Often times our kids will naturally love what we love, but I have found incredible joy in honoring my kids leanings and actually feel sad when I hear kids say their parents DON'T do that. Moms and Dads, you are missing out.

    Love this post - you are a phenomenal Mom. Great tips for other Mamas! I'm also stopping by to hear your wisdom from your friends at SITS!

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  3. Love this post, Starla. This is such a great reminder that our children need individualized attention once in awhile. It reminds me of when my son was in Kindergarten. He took me on a date. It was adorable. We tried to continue that tradition for a little while when our kids were younger. I find that one on one time allows for the best conversations, especially as my kids get older. Thanks for sharing this important reminder. Blessings to you and yours.

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  4. My kids are grown - but this is a WONDERFUL very specific list - love this!

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