Remembering the Good in My Husband

Life can play its toll on marriages if we don't have Christ as the center of it. Every time we turn the corner there is an attack on marriages. Everything from TV, internet, a busy life schedule and much more. We must slow down, focus, pray together and make our marriages a priority to be able to thrive! I don't know about you but I don't want to just survive, I want to thrive! 


So today was a rough day. We all have them. In my quiet time with God, He asked me to write a list out of the good in my husband. He wants me to remind myself of good things and not focus on the negative. He asked me to change my perspective. He reminded me of this verse. 

Philippians 4:8
"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."

I believe God wants us to change our thinking and our perspective. He doesn't want us to dwell on the destructive thoughts but positive thoughts. He wants us to guard our hearts from the negative. Satan is quick to remind us of all the past hurts and wrong doings our husbands have done so let's counteract that with reminding ourselves of the good in our husbands. 

Here is some of my list....

He loves me. 
He loves our kids. 
He is a hard worker. 
He is a good employee. 
He is a good provider. 
He loves God. 
He prays with me. 
He'll do family devotions. 
He wrote me a love letter. 
He likes to give us good gifts. 
We have fun together. 
God has saved his life numerous times. 
He is smart. 
He can fix things around the house. 
He doesn't approve of credit cards. 
He protects us.
He plays with our kids. 


So I want to challenge every married woman to remind yourself of the good in your husband by making a list. Let's choose to think on good and not dwell on the bad. Let's be women that think good of our men and not evil. Let's be intentional about being the wife God would have us to be. 

So who's with me? Let me know by commenting! Please share this with others it may encourage. I appreciate you being here with me. 


Blessings, 

Starla J. 

8 comments:

  1. Great Post....when I am mad at my husband, I always try to remember all the good in him....(and sometimes that takes a prayer to God for help in "getting over myself")

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    1. :) I totally agree Cathy! Thank God for His grace in our lives.

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  2. Isn't this a good skill for any relationship? I love my husband because he is such a hard worker, he is totally devoted to me, he loves our kids, and he loves God. Those are some great qualities. Thanks for a good reminder!

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  3. Hi Starla! I enjoyed reading your post. I wanted to tell you thank you for being such a great inspiration!!
    I wanted to let you know I nominated you for the Very Inspiring Bloggers Award. I thought it would be fun to pass it along to you. Check it out here... http://www.thisolemom.com/2014/08/very-inspiring-blogger-award.html#more

    Hugs~ Kim

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    1. Just now seeing this!! Thank you so much!

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  4. I love the heart of this post, Starla. I think changing our perspectives relates to every aspect of life, but it is especially true of our marriages. When I get bent about some area my husband hasn't lived up to (in my opinion), I think about the issues that too many other wives have to deal with and I remember how blessed I am. I don't mean to undermine what others go through, but it helps me realize that any complaints I have about my husband pale in comparison.

    Changing our perspectives changes our hearts. Changing our hearts changes our marriages.

    Thanks so much for the encouraging post! May He continue to bless your marriage and family.

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  5. AMEN, Starla!!! GREAT ADVICE FOR ALL WIVES!!!
    Kristen :-)

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