|Derivative of original by olavXO used with CC.|
Do you have that one friend that loves you where you are? No matter the mess you are in?
Someone you can call in your happy moments and share in those painful moments?
Someone who encourages you and prays with you?
Someone who gives you godly counsel and not worldly instruction?
Someone who you can trust that what is confessed in your quiet conversations will be held in tight lipped secrecy?
Someone who tells you when you are wrong, not to see you hurt, but out of a love for you, to see you grow in Christ?
Are you that kind of friend to others?
"Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend."
1 Thessalonians 5:11
"Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do."
I've been blessed to have a few of these friendships in my life. God raised up women to be that "Iron sharpens Iron" friend for me. Oh how I'm blessed. One in particular stands out to me today. I've called her crying so many times as I've walked thru some of the hardest times in my life. I've called her filled with joy as I share about break through's, even of the smallest in nature. She has been there to cry with me, share my pain, laugh with me, correct me when I'm wrong, encourage me and pray with me. All the qualities I listed at the beginning of this post. What a gift from God!
There has even been times when I called her crying, hurt and angry about my husband and she responded to me with understanding my feelings but also with correction in how I failed in my communication with my husband and how I could have responded better to him which in turn would have helped the conversation or situation I had with my husband. She encourages me to be a better wife, the wife God wants me to be. How blessed am I!?!
God knew I needed her and all my close friends. His timing is perfect with each friendship!
The bible tells of several great friendships for us to look to as examples of how we should treat our friends.
Look at the book of Job. He had three close friends that when only hearing of his misfortune they came to his side with intentions of comforting him. Seeing his great grief and pain they sat in silence with him for seven whole days. WOW! That's amazing! Seven whole days!
Look at the book of Ruth. Ruth became friends with her mother in law and stayed with her all her life; out of love and loyalty for her.
Even Jesus himself had good friends: Martha, Mary and Lazarus. They spoke plainly with Jesus. The bible tells us in John 11 that Jesus wept when he saw Mary crying over the death of her brother. He even raised Lazarus from the grave.
I want to encourage you to take time and be intentional about creating and nurturing these friendships in your life. They are so important. Pray and ask God to bring those women into your life whom He wants you to be close friends with. God wants you to have good things, including good friendships.
You must be a good friend to have good friends. Don't let the busyness of life rob you of a great friendship.
With all that said, let's remember that God can be closer to us than any friend could ever be. He is always there. He loves us where we are. Nothing we could ever do can separate us from His love for us.
I thank you for all you are. You are beautiful. Wonderful. Amazing. You are enough for me. Thank you for the friends you have in my life. Thank you for their friendships. Help me to be the godly friend I am suppose to be for my friends. Give me wisdom. Renew my mind and heart. Raise me up to be all that you created me to be. I love you Lord. In all this I ask in Jesus' name. Amen.
With much love,