Our words. Our thoughts. Our feelings. Our emotions. They can all be directed toward negative or positive. We each go through our own seasons of being in a valley or hard spot. Including our husbands. Let's be such an expert in knowing and speaking good about our husbands that the world around us would think he is super man!
Do you know what your husband is good at? What are his talents? What are his Gifts? What does he do well at? What does he work hard at? What does he succeed in?
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Become an expert in knowing what your husband is good at. Make a list to remind yourself.
Compliment him on what he is doing right. He knows where he fails. He feels it. He doesn't need a nagging wife to keep bringing it up. Only God can bring true conviction and change. The Holy Spirit doesn't need our help!
Proverbs 21:19 "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, then with a contentious and angry women."
Ephesians 4:29 "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers."
We want to be accepted, loved and encouraged even on our horrible days. Our husbands want that same treatment.
Let's encourage each other to...
*Be nice to our husbands on the good and bad days.
*Extend grace in the same way we would want grace to be given to us.
*Love them through the hard times.
*Speak nicely to them.
*Express your gratitude for all the good things they say and do.
*Love them where they are and leave the changing up to God.
*Not compare him to others.
*Pray for him.
*Pray for yourself, as the wife, to be the wife God wants you to be.
*Lift up our husbands in public, for all to hear.
*Learn and use your husband's love language.
*Give all unmet needs and unmet expectations to God.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 "Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up."
This is no less than what we as wives would want from our husbands. Right!?! Let's guard our thoughts and words. Let's open the door on positive thinking and slam the door shut on the negative. Let's be an encourager for our spouses. Let's make our homes the safe haven they need and want to come home to at the end of every day.
Be encouraged. God is here. He sees. He is our strength. He will renew us and change us to be all he created us to be. His love for us is overwhelming. He is enough!
More than Blessed,