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When we find ourselves in the position of needing to ask for forgiveness from someone; quickly and sincerely offer an apology. Not only from our spouse, but from God. It hurts God when we hurt each other.
In 1 John 1:9, it tells us that when we seek forgiveness of our sins, God is faithful to forgive us and cleanse us of them. I don't know about you, but I need to humble myself daily before God and seek His forgiveness and guidance.
In marriage, if your spouse is quick to be humble and apologize than count yourself as being blessed!
However, there may be a time when your spouse doesn't apologize for something he has done against you. No matter what the offense. Being a simple, silly offense like eating that last chocolate chip cookie knowing all to well that you claimed that cookie, you touched it, licked it, wrote your name on it and he still ate it! hahahah Or a deeper, greater offense that would bring your marriage to it's knees and riddled with so much hurt that only God can save.
Sometimes forgiving someone is hard. If the pain is deep, I understand it's not so easy and it must be a process not an event .
What should we do as Christian wives?
We are ALL sinners so therefore we should forgive because we want God to forgive us.
Matthew 6:14-15 KJV
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. "
Colossians 3:13 KJV
"Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye."
In Matthew 18:15, the bible tells us that if someone has sinned against us to go and talk about it with them. I also know that if the offense is huge, sometimes that confrontation or conversation is so hard and it may be easier to forgive and stay at a distance until God leads you to initiate restoration.
Remember the parable Jesus told in Matthew 18:23-35? Basically it's telling of a certain king who had a servant that was in debt to him and the servant could not pay. The servant was released from his debt to the king. The forgiven servant had a fellow-servant that owed him money, but he would not forgive his fellow-servant from his debt. When the king heard of his unforgivness, the king was angry and punished him.
Holding on to your hurt and pain will only hinder you from true healing. Unforgiveness can put a wedge between you and the true inner healing God has for you.
Forgiving someone even if they haven't apologized is about your freedom, your spiritual life, trusting God, and your responsibility to move forward.
Knowing who you are in Christ is so important in forgiving others. Their sin is about them. It doesn't label who you are. Remind yourself who you are in Christ. It's so important to your healing through this great pain.
Also forgiving doesn't mean you trust them again. No, it means you are stepping out and trusting God!
We forgive because God has forgiven us.
Luke 23:24 KJV "Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots."
So, ladies, I want to encourage you to let go and give to God any unforgiveness you may hold in your hearts so that you may have that true inner healing from Him.
Faith Along the Way, Faithful Feat