The Problem with Being Supermom.

Do you ever have those moments when you feel God slap you on your hand? Disciplining you? Opening your eyes to something you are doing that isn't good for you and your relationship with Him?

I had one of those moments this morning during my devotion time with the Lord. Then it was confirmed again as I got online and came across a post by my friend at Faith Along the Way.

I never thought of myself as trying to achieve Supermom level. I work hard to be the best I can be through serving others. However, the word "Supermom" never bounced around in my head as a title I wanted to achieve.


Give unmet needs to God.


Yet, "Supermom" was the title I was unknowingly after. I felt the Lord nudging me during my prayer time, in the early morning hours. The house was quiet. I had my coffee and bible. It was just the Lord and I, as I shared with him my hearts cry. Pressing in to God for so many things. Then I get it as a gentle shock to my heart. Yep, the slap on the hand. He was telling me my frustration is my own fault. I was like HOLD ON. Wait one minute, Lord.  No Lord, I serve others. I bend over backwards for others. It's them that need to change. Not me. Not I, Lord. I give and give. I do and I do. Then God tells me again, your frustrations are your own fault. You aren't meant to carry all that. You are not meant to "bend over backwards" for them. You are not suppose to get all upset when others do not respond to your efforts. Everyone has their own battles. You do not know what I have them going through. You do not do your work for them. You are suppose to do it for me. I will reward you. I will bless you. I will strengthen you. I will bless you. Not them. Is your goal for working so hard to get recognition and praise from others? Or do you want MY recognition and blessings? You cannot serve both. 

GULP. deep sigh. Yes, Lord, I understand. My strong efforts to serve others had gotten off balance. I was trying to please others to get their recognition and it got my focus off God. Ouch. Lesson learned. 

How can I use this disciplining moment that I had from God to change me? What steps can I take to work on this problem of mine? 

1. Pray. I can pray over my thoughts and intentions. Pray that God will guide me in everything I do. 

2. Give ALL unmet needs and unmet expectations over to God. He is the ONLY one who is meant to completely fulfill me. Not others. No recognition from others can satisfy like God can. 

3. Memorize scripture pertaining to this very issue.  Recite it to myself when the need to get a pat on the back for my efforts creep up on me. 

Colossians 3:23

"Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,"


Ephesians 6:7

"Serve wholeheartedly,as if you were serving the Lord, not people,"


1 Corinthians 15:58
"Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord."

Let's have our "Supermom" efforts honor God. It's okay to serve others, as long as our hearts are pure in doing so. 

Let's Pray. 

Dear Lord, 

I give all unmet expectation over to You. Help me to fully know and understand that You are the only one who can fulfill me. Help me to serve without strings attached. Help me to hand over to you my need of a pat on the back and recognition for all I do. Let my work be done to glorify you. Help me to wait on You for my joy, blessings, strength and peace. You are the Prince of Peace. I praise you. I love you, Lord. All this I ask in Jesus name. Amen. 

Do you struggle with the "Supermom" entitlement feelings? When was the last time you had a disciplining moment from God? 

More than blessed,

Starla J. 

18 comments:

  1. I love the verse Colossians 3:23! I love this part, "You do not do your work for them. You are suppose to do it for me. I will reward you. I will bless you. I will strengthen you. I will bless you." Being mindful of who we work for is so important. There was a story i heard at MOPS a few years ago. A worker was working on a cathedral or building of some kind. And someone noticed him crafting a small bird in one of the walls of the building (a location that was going to be covered up) so they asked Him, why are you spending so much time on something nobody is going to see? He said even if nobody sees it, God sees it.

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    1. He does see it. So true. It's so comforting to know He cares.

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  2. sometimes as moms and as women the best thing we can do is to pray

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  3. Wow, I really needed to read this today. Thank you. I am always finding myself in those "me, me, me, me" moments in thought and prayer and need to be reminded that it really has nothing to do with me. My focus needs to be on God and how I can serve others in His name.

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  4. Love! Absolutely. It's a hard lesson learned, but the sooner we get it, the better off our whole family will be. Thank you!

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    1. Absolutely! Thank you for stopping by Maria.

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  5. Great verses! I am not a mom but I always thought of my mom as super mom when I was younger because she seemed to do it all and made it look so easy.-L

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    1. Thank you! I appreciate you stopping by.

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  6. I totally strive to be supermom (and super-everything). Not to please or impress others, but because I'm naturally driven and a perfectionist. It's definitely a balancing act, and the balance isn't always easy to find.

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    1. You are so right Brittany. Thanks for stopping by.

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  7. I have up being super anything long ago, but sometimes struggle with the guilt of thinking I should be trying to "do it all." It's good to remember that the only expectations we need answer to is God's, not man's, and not ours.

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    1. God wants us.. All of us. Thanks for stopping by.

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  8. In today's world, I think it is so easy to feel like we need to be supermom. But I couldn't agree more...these feelings are a reflection of our focus coming off God and being hyper focused on how the world sees us. Thank you for sharing these reflection verses, it is always great to have verses on hand to meditate on and to memorize!

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  9. I agree with you, Jennifer. Thank you for taking the time to stop by and comment.

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  10. God only expects our best from us :)

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  11. This is a wonderful reminder! Thank you for sharing. So easy to chase for perfection but impossible to truly achieve it!

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